Taming the Flame
When two individuals with their own mindsets, own goals and own aspirations come together as one, like physics, the laws of psychology predict friction. In love relationships inside the home setting, when the sparks begin to fly, lovers too often say bye-bye. Instead, the couple should welcome the sparks with the understanding that the sparks telltale that this is where they need work at.
If you know a thing or two about anthropology: the study of ancient humans, you probably know it was the pre-human homo-erectus who first used fire to cook with and light the dark nights. These prehistoric humans were the first to tame the flame, which had to be a revolution of the mind, for all living creatures at that time ran from the hot glowing blaze we call fire. They ran from it with good reason: they had no understanding of the darn thing. Nothing or no one wanted to tango with the flames of fire.
I suppose one day hundreds of thousands of years ago, one of our homo-erectus ancestors said to himself,
“I’m tired of running from this horrifying thing that every time it shows up, it destroys and consumes what’s mine. I am not going to run anymore. I will tame that flame”.
No one knows for sure how it really happened? We only know that it did happen. The homo-erectus did tame that flame. And without the taming of fire, the progression of the human race would have been lethargic.
THE WELDING PROCESS
The illustration is drawn of a welder welding two steel beams together. As he lowers his face guard and applies the flame, sparks begin to fly. Without that applied heat, the sparks will not fly. If there are no sparks, those two steel beams never become one steel beam.
The welding procedure is a necessary procedure when making two beams or two people one. Once the welding procedure is complete, one of the astonishing things that occur is the two beams that have become one are virtually unbreakable.
RELATIONSHIPS OF STEEL
When two people decide to live together in the name of love, it presume to be a hard task as the two people desire’s clash and they bump heads. If their love is true and they really want to be together, the two will learn how to compromise with one another. Then the sparks will fly less and less. Once the sparks stop flying all together and the smoke settles; what you will find is one unbreakable steel beam, (i.e. two people who have become one, who fit like a hand and glove.) You have seen it before, those couples who have been happily married for years. They know one another like they know the back of their hands. They even sound alike in speech and look alike in their movements. They exhibit an image and persona when together that you cannot imagine them being with anyone else.
It was the Greek philosopher Aristotle who once wrote,
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
“Love, Single, Soul” – Aristotle
If you have embarked on the venture of living together and becoming one with your lover; be conscious (aware) of all that has been relayed to you in this book. And make sure your lover is conscious as well.
CONCLUSION
When the trials of life fall upon us, our reaction to the trial tells it all, and the true motives of our heart are displayed. Nothing defines a person like hard times. In rough times we will find out how weak or strong we really are, and what kind of person we really are. You truly do not know a person until you live with a person. When those in love decide to live together for life, their living arrangement will become an experimental ground to expose their Pleasure Principle with the objective of replacing it with the more mature Reality Principle, which leads to a couple becoming one.